NVC processes

You will practise and deepen your understanding of the following:

  • Transforming anger (using the Anger Dance Floor designed by Gina Lawrie & Bridget Belgrave)

  • Screaming in Giraffe

  • Hearing beyond another's anger (blame, criticism)

  • Expressing an apology in NVC

  • Experiencing, expressing and receiving gratitude and appreciation

    Reference: CNVC.org Certification Preparation Packet (CPP)

NVC Competencies

You will have the opportunity to deepen your capacity for the following:

  • Needs consciousness: Awareness of (and the willingness to honour) needs, the essential universal elemental qualities of life (like sustenance, love and meaning).

  • Feelings awareness: Ability to identify and experience our physical sensations and emotions.

  • Taking ownership of one’s feelings: Living from the knowledge that I alone cause my emotions - my emotions are not caused by others.

  • Mourning: Transforming the suffering of loss; letting go of resistance to what is, and being willing to allow our experience to unfold.

  • Empathy: Being present with another's experience, with unconditional acceptance of the person.

  • Openness to feedback: Receiving other's perspective about our actions with equanimity and centeredness.

  • Reconnecting to self and recovering from reactivity: Reactivity is internal resistance to what is: Recovery is letting go of that resistance.  Re-connecting to self is being with one's own experience with presence and compassion.

  • Dissolving enemy images: Transcending one's perceptions that another deserves to be punished or harmed.

  • Honest self expression: Owning one's experience and having the willingness to express authentically without blame or criticism.

  • Responding to others’ reactivity: Responding rather than reacting to others who are caught up in intense separating emotions.

  • Beneficial regret: Acknowledging and learning from one's missed opportunity to meet needs, without guilt, shame, or self-punishment.

  • Awareness of response-ability: Freely choosing one's responses to what shows up in life, owning one's part in what happens. Not owning others' parts, and acknowledging that one's actions do influence others.

    Reference: Pathways to Liberation Self-assessment
    (Copyright © 2011 Jacob Gotwals, Jack Lehman, Jim Manske, and Jori Manske)

Key distinctions

You will deepen your understanding of the following:

  • Giraffe honesty vs. jackal honesty

  • Protective vs. punitive use of force

  • Appreciation vs. approval, compliments or praise


    Reference: CNVC.org Certification Preparation Packet (CPP)